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by **♥ heart ♥** Sat Apr 04, 2009 1:11 pm

Each
time that someone inflicts physical or emotional pain upon us there is
usually a natural reaction to attack back. While this can give some
much needed satisfaction, it is not an open and shut case.

There are different kinds of hurt - harsh or mild, intentional or
accidental, apparently justified or not. Sometimes the perpetrator is
emotionally ill or extremely stressed and unaware of the seriousness of
the incident, perhaps feeling very much worse than you do. Imagine that
the positions are switched for a different perspective on the situation.

"It's hard to have one's watch stolen, but one reflects that the thief
of the watch became a thief from causes of heredity and environment
which are as interesting as they are scientifically comprehensible; and
one buys another watch, if not with joy, at any rate with a philosophy
that makes bitterness impossible." - Arnold Bennett (1867-1931)

It is worth considering the aftermath of revenge. How do you feel now,
better or worse? How does the other person feel? Was your reaction too
strong or harmful? Perhaps you feel bad and regret it altogether? Could
a little discussion have avoided the incident?

"To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it." - Confucius (BC)

It may seem very stupid to turn the other cheek when we have been hurt,
and often it is. However, we should review the situation and consider
the facts and effects. Who is being harmed by our anger and
retaliation? If we cause ourselves more grief when we try to get even,
isn't this another reason to at least review our actions?

"He who seeks revenge should remember to dig two graves." - Chinese proverb

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