◑ Finding Your Strength in Difficult Times ◑
◑ Finding Your Strength in Difficult Times ◑
by ♥ heart ♥ Sat Apr 04, 2009 2:28 am
Everyone
is looking for happiness. But happiness is not a goal. It is a result
of doing what you like and relating honestly to other people.
Happiness is about being your own person, making your own decisions,
doing what you want because you want to do it, and living your own life
to please yourself. It's about being independent, allowing others to be
free, and seeking the best in yourself and in the world.
It's so easy to do the opposite _ to cling to others expecting to be
taken care of, to control people and blame them when things go wrong,
to be in sincere and play at relationships and careers rather than
commit, to tease rather than respond, and to live on the fringe of
others lives rather than in the middle of your own.
When you do not live your own life as your own person, you live an
unhappy life indeed. You have the sense that your life is going no
where, that life has little meaning, and the meaning it does have loses
it substance when you examine it closely.
Your life is supposed to be for yourself.
Your life is given to you to create its meaning. You have no one to
blame if your life does not turn out the way you wanted it to be. No
one owes you anything. You are the only person who can make a lasting
difference. A little boost of support here or there means nothing
unless you have committed to go all the way yourself, no matter what
happens.
No promises that anyone ever made to you have the power to make a lasting difference.
No betrayal or abandonment has the power to limit your growth or blunt
your success unless you need an excuse for failing that badly.
Putting it bluntly, you have the ability to get over just about
everything. And if you intend to be happy during this life you are
going to have to get over a lot all the time.
The first thing you have to get over is the belief that someone is coming in your life to make all the difference.
Don't count on anyone coming to rescue you, give you the big break,
defeat your enemies, stand up for you, recognize your worth, and open
doors.
Either you are the savior in your own life or your life without redemption.
You deserve to be happy, but you also deserve everything that you accept. So look at
your unhappiness. It is a record of your failure to be your own person.
Your unhappiness is really nothing more than a reminder that you have some work to do to be happy again.
Because being happy is liking the way you feel; if you are unhappy it means that you don't like the way you feel.
You are the person who is supposed to do something about that.
Being happy requires that you take subtle but important risks all the time.
You need to assert yourself. Avoid manipulation, pointless arguments, and confrontations.
You need to tell the truth and correct your lies.
You need to stop playing the victim so you can enjoy your success with out feeling guilty.
To find happiness you need to be your own person, not a pretender.
You need to let go of your expectations of what you think life should
be like so that you don't unrealistically judge others and find them
lacking and ungiving.
You need to give up living in the past.
You need to learn to forgive and to let go in order to move on.
You need to learn to listen in order to bring out the best in others.
You need to take yourself seriously, but not so seriously that you have
to be perfect all the time or can not admit your errors or weaknesses.
You need to understand that you are always growing. So you must
continually be aware of the compromises that inhibit your growth and
the relationships where you feel you give away too much.
You need a purpose in life.
You need to work at the purpose and create the life you want, not live in empty hope of deliverance.
Being happy takes work, the work of life. Since you are going to live your own life, you might as well live it as your best.
Each of my later topics that will follow this one will addresses one
particular issue on the road to becoming your own person and finding
happiness. It is all straightforward advice and has common sense and
directness to recommend it. Most of it you already know. It is
presented in this fashion to inspire you to accept yourself so that you
can find and give your gift.
This is a concentrated topic of knowledge, and many important meanings
may slip by you on first reading. Whether you read one paragraph a day
or read this entire topic in one sitting, each paragraph deserves
reading.
You will discover that the way you see the individual sections will change as you grow or when your situation changes.
Sometimes it takes a crisis to open you up to a new understanding or
allow you to incorporate this advice into your life. Going back over a
section in a time of difficulty will open you up to new ideas that you
may have missed before.
I urge you to take all of this to heart. I have assembled it form a
life-time of working with people. I have written it so that it cuts
through to the center of each issue and speaks directly to your heart.
is looking for happiness. But happiness is not a goal. It is a result
of doing what you like and relating honestly to other people.
Happiness is about being your own person, making your own decisions,
doing what you want because you want to do it, and living your own life
to please yourself. It's about being independent, allowing others to be
free, and seeking the best in yourself and in the world.
It's so easy to do the opposite _ to cling to others expecting to be
taken care of, to control people and blame them when things go wrong,
to be in sincere and play at relationships and careers rather than
commit, to tease rather than respond, and to live on the fringe of
others lives rather than in the middle of your own.
When you do not live your own life as your own person, you live an
unhappy life indeed. You have the sense that your life is going no
where, that life has little meaning, and the meaning it does have loses
it substance when you examine it closely.
Your life is supposed to be for yourself.
Your life is given to you to create its meaning. You have no one to
blame if your life does not turn out the way you wanted it to be. No
one owes you anything. You are the only person who can make a lasting
difference. A little boost of support here or there means nothing
unless you have committed to go all the way yourself, no matter what
happens.
No promises that anyone ever made to you have the power to make a lasting difference.
No betrayal or abandonment has the power to limit your growth or blunt
your success unless you need an excuse for failing that badly.
Putting it bluntly, you have the ability to get over just about
everything. And if you intend to be happy during this life you are
going to have to get over a lot all the time.
The first thing you have to get over is the belief that someone is coming in your life to make all the difference.
Don't count on anyone coming to rescue you, give you the big break,
defeat your enemies, stand up for you, recognize your worth, and open
doors.
Either you are the savior in your own life or your life without redemption.
You deserve to be happy, but you also deserve everything that you accept. So look at
your unhappiness. It is a record of your failure to be your own person.
Your unhappiness is really nothing more than a reminder that you have some work to do to be happy again.
Because being happy is liking the way you feel; if you are unhappy it means that you don't like the way you feel.
You are the person who is supposed to do something about that.
Being happy requires that you take subtle but important risks all the time.
You need to assert yourself. Avoid manipulation, pointless arguments, and confrontations.
You need to tell the truth and correct your lies.
You need to stop playing the victim so you can enjoy your success with out feeling guilty.
To find happiness you need to be your own person, not a pretender.
You need to let go of your expectations of what you think life should
be like so that you don't unrealistically judge others and find them
lacking and ungiving.
You need to give up living in the past.
You need to learn to forgive and to let go in order to move on.
You need to learn to listen in order to bring out the best in others.
You need to take yourself seriously, but not so seriously that you have
to be perfect all the time or can not admit your errors or weaknesses.
You need to understand that you are always growing. So you must
continually be aware of the compromises that inhibit your growth and
the relationships where you feel you give away too much.
You need a purpose in life.
You need to work at the purpose and create the life you want, not live in empty hope of deliverance.
Being happy takes work, the work of life. Since you are going to live your own life, you might as well live it as your best.
Each of my later topics that will follow this one will addresses one
particular issue on the road to becoming your own person and finding
happiness. It is all straightforward advice and has common sense and
directness to recommend it. Most of it you already know. It is
presented in this fashion to inspire you to accept yourself so that you
can find and give your gift.
This is a concentrated topic of knowledge, and many important meanings
may slip by you on first reading. Whether you read one paragraph a day
or read this entire topic in one sitting, each paragraph deserves
reading.
You will discover that the way you see the individual sections will change as you grow or when your situation changes.
Sometimes it takes a crisis to open you up to a new understanding or
allow you to incorporate this advice into your life. Going back over a
section in a time of difficulty will open you up to new ideas that you
may have missed before.
I urge you to take all of this to heart. I have assembled it form a
life-time of working with people. I have written it so that it cuts
through to the center of each issue and speaks directly to your heart.
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